We have had the opportunity to help thousands of couples around the world, through prive counseling, conferences or via our resources on “TopChrétien” and YouTube. Unfortunately, we see the same scenario over and over again. At the beginning of their marriage, couples are passionately in love, but as years go by and children arrive, they often come close to the breaking point.
The statistics are unfortunate but too true :
We are not taught how to communicate effectively in marriage !
We experienced this sad truth in our own marriage. We were only newlyweds when we became parents of five children. At the same time, we took on more and more responsibilities; we were teachers, pastors, missionaries, and therapists. Adding to all of this, sickness invited itself into our lives. We can affirm that we have been severely tested and that our relationship has sometimes paid the price! Many times we felt an imbalance had settled between the two of us and we had to redefine our roles, often feeling like we were losing all control of the situation. But these were the moments when we turned to God for help to try to understand the why behind all of this…
Even though we were suffering and feeling stuck in this situation,
we knew we were missing something.
The catalyst for change came thanks to a divine appointment with a married couple that were Christian counselors. They enabled us to equip ourselves with several keys to better communication. Their impact was so powerful on our marriage and the transformation so profound that we wanted to share these keys with others.
Yes, it is possible to cultivate a loving, passionate relationship in marriage, while navigating through the storms of family life. Life often hurt us, but God has planned great things for marriage. Even if sometimes the foundations of the marriage are not good, the challenge is to keep on learning and changing.
MARRIED 10 YEARS
We felt that a new season in our life was coming. We had more responsibilities and more opportunities to impact people. We wanted to be sure our relationship had the foundation it needed to be ready for all these changes. The Dufours listened to us closely and gave us the keys to unlock strength to make it through crisis situations and to deal with the areas in our marriage we could barely even speak about. We are now much stronger!
MARRIED 29 YEARS
Eric and Rachel Dufour are excellent counselors. They gave us relevant tools to better understand each other. They are a real blessing for us and our family, and we are sure they will be for you too. Thank you, Eric and Rachel, for all you are and do!
On the other hand, deciding to work to heal your marriage, by examining your own actions and letting God change what He wants to change, will prepare you for a full and meaningful married life! We have seen this happen hundreds of times, even in the most horrific situations including, adultery, violence, betrayal and lies.
If you want your marriage to be a source of comfort and fulfillment, it is essential you improve your communication skills!
©2019 Eric & Rachel Dufour